Do you have a BFF? A *real* BFF?
I look at men in wonder sometimes. In admiration, really. Their ability to be up front and completely honest with their mates is something that many women find impossible to do. There are times when we tell white lies to our lady friends, to keep their egos bolstered – we’ve all done it. Well, who among us would be accused (or daring enough) to add to a friend’s woes – inflating the sorrow of an already broken heart, raising the topic of their bad hair day, their not-so-perfect manicure?
Ask any guy if they think two women can be best friends, and you will get yet another ‘honest’ answer, “No way! Girls whinge and moan about their buddies all day”. What they don’t understand is that women are intricately woven. We’re opinionated, strong, delicate, complex creatures with personal experiences that reinforce our knowledge. We’re made up of many artfully combined facets. We’re not know-it-alls, no matter what men think.
Our friendships aren’t built around footy matches, pubs, the boasting of conquests, or the thrill of a cat fight. Our bonds run deeper. True, there is a little envy in all of us – competition the world has instilled. But we adore our lady friends, truly we do. Life without them would never be the same.
Occasionally, we connect with one true BFF with whom we can be completely honest, without causing insult. We share secrets and opinions, and we’re there for each other - no matter what. When we find that person, we should make extra effort, take time to enjoy each other’s company, hold on and never let her go because some people are just meant to be together.
Time, these days, runs at triple pace, with commitments that begin at the crack of dawn and end, well, they never really end. And here’s where a lesson from men can be taken. The washing up can wait, the dinner can be late, and the ironing doesn’t need to be done. Blokes make time to spend with their mates, and ladies, so should we.
To sisterhood, to girl power, to good times and trust.